How I quit smoking!
I quit smoking on January 16, 2017. Cold. Turkey. And it was very cold indeed. That very first day was honestly my hardest day. I wanted to give up right then. I had an anxiety filled work day and as soon as I got in the car to drive home I immediately went to reach for my lighter and my pack of joes and they weren't there. And I just started sobbing uncontrollably...and I kept saying "I can't do this. I can't do this. I'll never ever be able to do this." And then I decided to call my best friend and she pulled me out of it. She reminded me that it wasn't going to be easy. This was going to be the hardest thing I've ever done, but that it was possible! She explained to me that all of this was in my head. I did not need a cigarette to get through this. She asked me "If you were ever overwhelmed at work or you were having a stressful moment what did you usually do?" I'd go outside and smoke a cigarette... but then she asked "what else would you do??" I'd call you or Joshua... okkk so it wasn't the cigarette that got you through the stressful situation...it was talking to your best friends....well shit. I never thought of it like that. So I had to change my mind set. I don't need this. I want it. But I don't always get what I want (hard thing for me to say bc I am a princess and I always get what I want...but not in this case)
So later that week I read an article about losing weight...I'll link it here
But basically it touches on the facts that when you're trying something new like a new lifestyle it's ok to mess up, but to not give up. Just because you smoked a cigarette after you quit doesn't mean you have to say fuck it..I failed! Let's go buy two more packs! No!!! I smoked again and I'm going to keep going!!! I'm not going to let this win.
Are you never in your life going to smoke a cigarette again?? Probably not. That's a crazy expectation...is that the goal?? Sure. But don't set yourself up for failure. If you make a mistake use it as a lesson, and learn from it. Think of a different way to handle the situation better next time. Talk to your friends. Don't hide it! I messed up but this is what I'm going to do next time. The early stages of quitting are the hardest, but if you set yourself in the right direction you can accomplish it, you just have to be in the absolute best mindset. And always remember that you can do anything you set your mind too! Trust me. I NEVER, EVER thought I could quit. I was smoking at least 15 cigarettes a day. I always had two packs with me at all times. It controlled my life. I can't go out unless I have my cigarettes. Wait, we can't go to that bar...I can't smoke in there. I don't want to go to the movies because I can't smoke during it. Oh I don't want the kids to ride with me because I want to smoke! What a dreadful way to live your life. But I'm now happy to say it's been 76 days since I quit!!!
A few things that helped me through this whole process:
1. I downloaded the smoke free app that tracks your days and how much money your saving by not smoking. Smoke Free - Quit smoking now and stop for good by David Crane
2. I didn't go inside any gas stations, or convenience stores for about two weeks. I didn't want to see them. I was terrified for the moment that once I saw them I'd be like "Give me a whole carton!!!" But as the weeks went on I got stronger. And I was able to go inside and I wasn't phased!
3. I stayed away from alcohol for a solid 3 weeks.
4. I stayed away from bars for a solid 6 weeks. This was quite hard because I love going out and people were always inviting me out, but I didn't want to risk it.
5. I had a strong support system. I had a group of friends that were trying to quit at the same time as I was.
6. I planned the day I wanted to quit, and then I planned it again (because the first one didn't work out) but then I smoked as many cigarettes as I wanted. Nothing more and nothing less. I had two left over in my pack the next morning and I looked at them and contemplated...should I just smoke these last two?? But I decided to use these last two cigarettes as a statement to myself. I snapped them both in half and chucked them in garbage. It was so empowering to break them in between the fingers that used to hold them so delicately...too much?? Haha...but seriously... Make it as dramatic as you want. Have a funeral for them! I mean fuck..you are saying goodbye to a huge part of your life! But it's a new chapter. And it feels so good to tell the people, that always doubted you, that you quit smoking!! 😊🙃
And always remember if you need a friend, I'm always here to help! I know it's hard, but I believe in you!!! If I can do it...I know you can too!!